March 24, 2007

The pictures are the girls playing dress-up and modeling their new bathingsuits Nana & Grumpa sent from Florida.
So, here I am. Fell asleep folding laundry and am skipping my scheduled duties (more on that later), but wanted to try posting regularly. I've gotten alot of questions about haircare for my daughters and have gotten to a point where I feel comfortable with our "system" thus far. We've gone through ALOT of shampoos & conditioners of every kind and price point! Since their particular Ethiopian hair is baby fine and curly the usual African American products are too heavy and thick, though the Motions line is pretty good. We've whittled down the pile to washing once with either Suave children's shampoo/conditioner or Creme of Nature shampoo, rinsing, and conditioning with a handful of Clairol Herbal Essence Conditioner with palm oil and Aussie 3 minute Miracle conditioner. I usually let Honeybun's conditioner set while I wash Sweetpea's or vice versa and then comb out while the conditioner is still in, rinse with lukewarm water and squeeze out excess water with a towel. After all that, we put in a palmful of Mizani Rose H2O conditioning hairdress (found at Trade Secret at the mall) and a bit of Burt's Bees Avocado Butter Pre-shampoo. It only takes a slight comb to work it in, and then we braid or ponytail, etc. The girls like 2 french braids the best and I find that with the after-conditioner stuff, the braids stay for a week. We don't wash anymore than once a week at most, as more often makes their hair and scalps super dry. Oh, also I squirt a bit of Burt's Bees Apricot Oil on their scalps with an eyedropper and work in every couple of days. So, there you go. All I know about hair. Needless to say, it's completely opposite of mine though I dream of having such lovely curls!

Potty training has quite honestly got me stumped. The teeny one is 2 yrs. old, and gets what the toilet is for etc., but frankly isn't that interested. Poor thing watches me flinch when I remove a po-po filled diaper and kisses me saying "Solly Mommy". I know that she is completely overwhelmed with new things/language/adjustment/etc. but, good grief, I'm sick of stinky diapers. Any advice? It's harder now as she is on antibiotics (Keflex) for an infected Molluscum (a wart like virus she got in Ethiopia), which gives her unbelievable diarrhea. Turns out that this one is a 'skin girl' meaning that all her illnesses are showing on her skin. Looks like we will be having a long relationship with a dermatologist. She will break out in little bumps all over her legs from lotion, itchy rash on butt and hips from bleach used to whiten disposable diapers, breaks out in rashes on her face (one had to be fought with antibacterial ointment as it turned into a staph infection from her scratching it at night) from oranges, etc. etc. etc.

I am still overtired and am convinced by looking in the mirror once a week or so that I have aged at least 20 years in the past month. I read an article recently that said 89% of moms admit that they have let themselves go since having children. Sadly, I am one of those moms. Have taken the proverbial bull by the horns though, and am getting a magnificent haircut tomorrow (thinking positively about the magnificent part) and will try try try to spice up my "look" from now on. Thank goodness we get our tax refund next week (Yay for the adoption tax credit!!!), so will have a bit of extra for new clothes buying. Have not figured out the sleep thing. I turned off the dreaded monitor, but still wake up about every hour to listen for breathing etc. Pathetic I know.

Tomorrow I am making Ethiopian food for the pre-school on Monday. I agreed to do an Ethiopian Day with pictures, stories, examples of money/spices/clothing/etc, as well as Ethiopian food for snack. We did not, as I had planned, go to Boston for Injera, so will have to deal with pita bread. :( Oh well. I'm making Ambasha Bread (sweet bread), Gommen Wat (spinach stew), and Shiro (chickpea stew). Cannot wait to fill the house with those delicious smells!!! MMMMMMMmmmmmmmm. Suddenly very hungry... hold on.......................................................... Aaaaaah, will have to hold off the need for Ethiopia food tonight with the help of a hot cross bun.

Meanwhile, the girls are now getting along much better. They are so cute kissing each other and hugging when we leave Honeybun off at school or before bed. It gives my heart a jolt to see how deeply they love each other already. Sweetpea is very very affectionate and her inner comedienne self is getting stronger each day. It is completely hilarious to see her give this long dissertation in mangled Amharic, toddler gibberish, and very mangled English and then fall on the floor laughing at how funny it was! Our daughter the comic.

Oh, and the duties I'm skipping... was putting together a foam board of pictures and stuff for Ethiopia Day at shcool. It will have to wait until tomorrow.


Nomadic One said...

Hi B!!!

Great update! Love the pics, too!

Don't sweat the p-training stuff...Munchkin was 2y8m when she "got serious" about it (because we had to be done before preschool started 3 months later!). We had tried a few other times but she just wasn't into it...the third time was a charm. M&Ms were the reward for one week then nothing and it still worked! ;)

Glad you'll be updating more regularly. I always hope to do that, too, but...

Love ya,

Anonymous said...

Hi Beth,
Love your pics and posts. I know what you mean about us letting oursleves go. We've been home from Ethiopia for almost 3 weeks now and whenver we go out after getting my daughter all ready and myself what I think is ready I usually get to the car or worse -- get where we are going and realize I have not even combed my hair!! And I only have one to deal with. God bless you with two little girls. LOL. By the way, I'm the one that took such great solace from your posts when I was in Ethiopia picking up my daughter. I'm so happy to say that things are sooo much better now. She's a real sweetie now -- most of the time. LOL.

Klynn said...

Hi, Beth. Just wanted to chime in with a little antibiotic/diarrhea advice that I got from my awesome pediatrician. If you go to your local pharmacy and ask for florastor kids (, it will work absolute wonders. Every time my little guy has to go on antibiotics, I pony up the OTC money to get some of this stuff, and it reduces the runny diapers amazingly well. Just use care not to over-do it, because if they get too much, it can cause constipation. It comes in a powder form, so you can mix it with juice, applesauce, yogurt, or whatever. Good luck with the potty training/diarrhea/skin/sleep issues. Thinking of you.

A Special Family said...

Sounds like they are doing so very very well!!!!!
Your post oozzed Happiness (if a tad tired) !!!

Stacey said...

I think you are absolutely amazing for adopting two little girls who are so different from you and I. There are not many people who are willing to adopt children of a different race, from a different country, and who aren’t newborns when they arrive. It warms the heart.

Susy Q said...

They're adorable! I love their outfits ;-)

Anonymous said...

Happy Mother's Day! Can we have an update please?